101 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Happy
Posted: January 18, 2010 Filed under: Relationships | Tags: Best ways to be happy, Happy Marriage Leave a comment »
Do you want to keep your marriage happy? To experience marital bliss, here are 101 ways to keep your marriage happy.
1. Loyalty
Your loyalty to your wife or husband is a very important thing. If you have loyalty, you will have trust in the relationship.
2. Never fail to say “I Love You”
Say “I love you” every time you get the chance. After all, saying it does not really get old because it reminds your spouse that you love him or her.
3. Quality Time
Whether you have kids already or are both busy at work, spending quality time together is very important. Schedule a date on a weekly or monthly basis; this will keep the two of you in touch with each other like when you were still dating.
4. A Dose of Appreciation
If your partner went out of his or her way to do something for you, a “Thank You” and a dose of appreciation should be in order.
5. Offer a Massage
If your spouse is tired from work, give him or her a massage. This will not only make him or her feel more relaxed but this will give the two of you to bond as well.
6. How was your day, honey?
Asking your spouse how his or her day went is a good way to say that you care about what he or she encountered at work. Asking this means you are interested in what your spouse has to say.
7. Gifts
Giving small gifts to your wife or your husband even if there is no occasion will keep the both of you happy. In fact, chances are, he or she will return the favor as well –be it through a gift or through a massage or maybe a bunch of kisses for you.
8. Make Love, Not War
When you and your spouse are arguing, try to get it across that you are on the same team and should support each other. If you do have to make a point, tell him or her that whatever argument you will go through it will not make you love him or her any less.
9. Make Love
A little lovemaking from time to time will keep the both of you happy and contented.
10. Go Places
Whether you would like to travel around the world or just go on a weekend getaway, going to places with your spouse will strengthen your bond while the two of you relax.
11. Be Sensitive
Action speaks louder than words so you should know if something is wrong or if your spouse is mad at you for something. If you already have an idea what it is, try to stop doing whatever it is that you are doing wrong.
12. Love Notes
Leaving love notes to your spouse is a reminder of your love and affection.
13. Maintain the Friendship
Maintaining a healthy friendship with your spouse is a good way to be always there for him or her. Being your spouse’s best friend is very important.
14. R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Respect your husband or your wife. Do not make him or her feel that you do not really care about what he or she wants.
15. Opinions
Everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion. If you do not agree with your spouse about something, you do not have to force him or her to have the same opinion as you do.
16. Listen
Hearing is not synonymous to listening. You should learn to listen to what your spouse has to say.
17. Don’t Fight Fire with Fire
If your spouse is angry at you, do not fight back in anger. Be calm and address his or her concerns the best way you can.
18. Cheaters Never Win
This is like rule no. 1 only more specific. Do not cheat on your husband or wife because what is the point of marrying him or her if you’re just going to cheat anyway?
19. Liars Go to Hell
Never lie to your spouse. He or she should be the very first one to know everything about you.
20. Love with All Your Heart
Love your spouse with all your heart, never hold back.
21. Love the In-Laws
No matter how hard it is to love your in-laws or to make your in-laws love you back, trying will not hurt.
22. Share the Chores
Do not let your spouse do all the housework. Sharing the chores will keep your marriage happy.
23. Share a Hobby
Doing a hobby together will enhance your relationship.
24. Surpise!
Surprise your spouse from time to time. Do the dishes or clean the house or maybe buy him or her a new wardrobe.
25. Spice Things Up
Buy your spouse something that you will both enjoy in bed. It could be lingerie for the wife or some sexy briefs for the husband.
26. Go Watch a Movie
Watching a movie in a cinema will make the both of you feel like you are dating again.
27. Do Not Forget Occasions
Never forget your anniversary or your spouse’s birthday.
28. No Kiss & Tell
Do not share tidbits about your marriage to other people. Your marriage is your own business.
29. Take Care of Each Other
You should take care of each other in sickness and in health.
30. Do Not Shout
Shouting at your spouse will only drive him or her away. Communicate, do not shout.
31. No Painful Words
Do not say something just to win an argument. If you say something that will hurt the feelings of your partner just to make him or her feel bad, this won’t do the both of you any good.
32. No to a Battered Spouse
Never inflict any type of physical pain to your spouse, this is against the law and this will also hurt your marriage.
33. Compliments
Make your husband or your wife feel good. If your spouse looks extra nice, bring in the compliments.
34. Make a Call
When all of a sudden you miss your spouse, go right ahead and make that call. Saying “I Miss You” from time to time makes your spouse feel real special.
35. Romantic Dinner
Go out for a romantic dinner with your spouse. Take him or her to a fine dining restaurant and eat dinner by candlelight.
36. Good Old Love Letter
Writing a love letter to your husband or wife may seem cheesy but it sure gives you love points.
37. Alone Time
Planning a time for you and your spouse to get away from the kids is a good way to rekindle your passion for each other.
38. Flowers, Chocolate & Wine
Bring your spouse some wine or champagne so you can share a relaxing drink together. Dark chocolate and a bouquet of flowers will also sweeten the atmosphere.
39. Flirt with your Spouse
Flirt with your spouse and no one else.
40. Serenade
This might be as old as time but if you know how to play the guitar or any musical instrument, you can serenade your husband or your wife.
41. SMS
Sweet nothings on text will put a smile on your wife’s or husband’s face.
42. Encouragement
If your spouse feels down, encourage him or her. You should be the very first to support your spouse.
43. Let Your Spouse Dream
Nourish your spouse’s dreams. Do not be the very first one to criticize your partner.
44. Speak Your Mind
Your partner is not a mind reader so speak your mind.
45. Never Snoop
Do not snoop on your spouse’s stuff. Snooping around means either you do not trust your partner or you do not have the guts to ask him or her about something that bugs you.
46. Laugh at Jokes
If your spouse cracks a joke, you should laugh even if other people are not laughing at all.
47. Raunchy E-mail
E-mail your wife or your husband a rather hot invite for a rendezvous. Build your partner’s excitement and tell him or her to RSVP.
48. Dream
Talk about your future. Whether it is about how many children you want or buying that dream house, talk about it because it builds your relationship.
49. Saying Sorry
If you know you did something wrong, say you are sorry even if it is hard to do it.
50. Sign Board
Put a sign board in your front lawn that says “The Best Wife/Husband in the World Lives Here”.
51. Brag About Your Spouse
Brag about your spouse in front of him or her and to your friends. This will let your partner know that you are really proud of the person that s/he is.
52. Religious and Political Views
Even if you feel strongly about your partner’s religious or political views, you should learn to live with it. After all, opposites attract.
53. Defend
Defend your spouse no matter what. Do not let anyone disrespect the one you love most.
54. Love Yourself
Before you can love someone to the maximum, you have to appreciate and love yourself.
55. Every Day is a New Day
When you wake up in the morning, you should remember that every day is a new day and that you should always make it special.
56. Never Go to Bed Mad
If you and your spouse just got into a heated argument, never go to bed mad at each other.
57. Never Compare
Never compare your spouse to anyone else this will only hurt him or her.
58. Long Drives
Go out in the middle of the night and drive to wherever. It would make you feel like you’re kids again, only now it’s legal to make out.
59. Financial Woes
The two of you should budget your money well. Lots of marriages fail because of financial woes.
60. Lovemaking Under the Stars
Make love to your spouse in the beach, under the stars. This will make things hot, hot, hot.
61. Take Good Care of Yourself
You should always be presentable and should always look good in front of your husband or your wife.
62. Never be Selfish
Do not think only about yourself, you are married now so think about your spouse as well.
63. Call Home
If you think you will be late for dinner, call home.
64. New Things
Learn new things together. This will enhance your relationship with your spouse.
65. HHWW
HHWW means holding hands while walking. Doing this more often sweetens your life together.
66. Lips are for Kissing
Kiss your spouse every time you get home or even when you are out together. Being very open with your love for your partner is a good thing because it shows the world that the two of you are in love with each other.
67. Building Traditions
Do something for Christmas that will be a family tradition.
68. Pleasure
Do the things you do not usually do. Give your spouse lots of pleasure in bed.
69. Make Love in the Kitchen
This will not only spice things up but it will also show your spouse that you really desire him or her.
70. Look Your Spouse in the Eyes
Whenever the two of you talk, look your spouse in his or her eyes. Wives still swoon and men love this.
71. Plan for Future Children
Even if you do not have children just yet, plan for them. This will not only allow the both of you to dream but it will prepare you for parental challenges.
72. Go on a Diet Together
If the two of you have gained a little weight, going on a diet together will help you shed that added weight and build your relationship as well.
73. Indulge
Indulge your spouse from time to time. Take your wife shopping or take your husband to buy toys for the big boys.
74. Think About the Good Things
Reflecting on the good things about your spouse will help you appreciate him or her more.
75. The Code
Share a code and pick a word that usually comes up in conversations i.e. bedroom, night, heat. And when you hear that word, you would have to touch your spouse –be it a kiss or a hug or anything you want and can do in public.
76. Dinner to Dining
Make your dinners special even if you are at home.
77. Love Nest
Build your home into a love nest. It should be relaxing and appealing to the senses.
78. Bedroom ala Hotel
Make your bedroom look like a luxurious hotel room. This will be a conducive atmosphere for a lot of lovemaking.
79. Make Out
Make out in front of the TV. This will spice things up but be sure the kids are already asleep.
80. Send a Meal
Sending your spouse a meal in his or her office is something very sweet to do. It means you are thinking about your partner.
81. Send Gifts
Yes you can give gifts to each other when you are already home but you can still send a gift to your spouse while he or she is at work. Never underestimate the element of surprise.
82. Elevator Love
When the two of you are alone in the elevator, kiss your spouse until somebody else comes in or until you are already in your stop.
83. Steamy Reading
Get an erotic book and read this to each other. This will steam things up.
84. Hugs and More Hugs 
Hug your spouse on a daily basis.
85. I Love You
Say “I Love You” every time you have a phone conversation with your spouse. Reminding him or her of your love will keep the two of you thinking of each other all the time.
86. Favorite Drink
Make your spouse his or her favorite drink, this will result to a lot of appreciation and kisses.
87. Comment on the New Haircut
If your spouse just had a haircut, comment in a positive way.
88. Smile
The first time you see your spouse in the morning, you should smile and say “Hello” or “Good Morning”.
89. Ask About What Your Spouse Wants
Ask your spouse’s dreams or wishes and try to make them come true if you could.
90. Get a Gift Certificate
Get your spouse a gift certificate from his or her favorite store.
91. Do Not Fight Because of the Remote
Try not to fight over what TV shows the two of you should watch. Either talk about a schedule of who holds the remote on certain days or agree to watch something that you both like.
92. Your Spouse for Dessert
Telling your spouse that you want to have him or her for dessert will release the fireworks.
93. Laugh Together
Laughing together does wonders. The two of you should talk about something that would make you laugh real hard.
94. Sweet Nothings
Say sweet nothings in your spouse’s ears from time to time. Doing this in a restaurant or in a movie house will do wonders in your relationship.
95. Bathe Together
Bathing or showering or even sharing a bubble bath together can be so sexy. Being sexy is not just for the movies, you can do this at home as well.
96. Be Gentle
No matter how mad you are, be very gentle with your spouse.
97. Backrub
A nice backrub is a good way to relax your spouse and who knows, your hands might lead you to other more private places.
98. Buy Something for your Spouse
If your wife has been eyeing a pair of shoes for a very long time, buy her those shoes. If your husband has been telling you that he wants that new gadget, buy that for him.
99. Pampering
Aside from the usual massage, pamper your partner from time to time. This will make the two of you happy.
100.Get Creative
Get creative in bed. Do not do it like it’s a routine.
101.Love Each Other
Love each other as much as you can and never ever give up on your marriage.
